Here are some discussion questions you might like to consider about marriage …
- What was your parent’s marriage like? What ‘roles’ did your dad or mum each play and what were the expectations like? How has that influenced your view of marriage?
- What are some of the implications that the doctrine of the Trinity (one God existing in three persons – equal partners, unity in diversity, etc) has for marriage and human relationships?
- From your perspective, what are some practical tips for a good marriage?
- For those who are parents, what are some keys to modeling a healthy view of marriage to our children?
- Marriage is not a requirement. Jesus and Paul were not married. While encouraging marriage as a good thing (in a culture where its value is diminishing), how can we also improve the way we value and affirm those who are single within the church?
Finally, here are some books I would recommend that address some of the issues we have raised:
Discovering Biblical Equality – this book contains an excellent compilation of articles by leading scholars, including gordon Fee (editor). I think this is the best book available on this topic.
Beyond Sex Roles: What the Bible Says about a Women's Place in Church and Familyby Gilbert Bilizekian. This book is a classic, written by Bill Hybels' theological mentor.
Good News for Women: A Biblical Picture of Gender Equality by Rebecca Groothius.
The Trinity and Sub-Ordinationism: The Doctrine of God and the Contemporary Gender Debate by Kevin Giles. This book and the following one take an in-depth look at the Trinity as to how it informs human relationships, including marriage.
Who's Tampering with the Trinity: An Assessment of the Subordination Debate by Millard Erickson.
For a different perspective that what I have proposed, read Recovering Biblical Manhood and Womanhood by John Piper. Piper proposes that men and women are equal as persons but that they have different God-given roles in the home and the church.