The Stories We Tell Ourselves – Externalization and The Table of Life

In this next conversation with Nicole Conner, we talk about the power of externalization. In all of our lives, we are not the problem; the problem is the problem. Externalizing prevents us from forming our identity around a problem story and enables us to deal with it more objectively. The 'table of life' is a … Continue reading The Stories We Tell Ourselves – Externalization and The Table of Life

The Stories We Tell Ourselves – Narrative Therapy

Today I begin a series of conversations with my wife, Nicole Conner, on the topic of 'The Stories We Tell Ourselves'. Nicole has a Masters of Narrative Therapy and Community Work from Melbourne University and she has her own narrative therapy practice called Defining Stories. Over the last few years, Nicole has been able to … Continue reading The Stories We Tell Ourselves – Narrative Therapy

Soul Food Episode 45 – Assertiveness

One of the keys to good relationships is learning to be ‘lovingly assertive’. Yes, it really is possible to be both ‘loving’ and ‘assertive’. Some people tend to be ‘under-assertive’. They can’t set boundaries or limits. They can never say “no” ... or at least not without feeling guilty. They are easily manipulated by stronger … Continue reading Soul Food Episode 45 – Assertiveness

Soul Food Episode 44 – Friendship

Have you noticed that humans have an inbuilt longing for connection with other people? Of course, good relationships and friendships don’t just ‘happen’. They have to be cultivated and nurtured intentionally. Each of us has various circles or levels of friendship. • Acquaintances – these are the dozens and maybe even 100s of people you know but … Continue reading Soul Food Episode 44 – Friendship