A few years ago, I was having lunch with a friend of mine. I asked him how he was doing and he said he was “great.” He then asked me how I was doing. I hesitated at first but then I answered honestly. I was doing it tough and so I told him about it. The depth of our conversation changed immediately. He thanked me for my openness. Sadly, near the end of our time together he admitted that he was going through some challenges too … but he never had the courage to tell anyone.
Authenticity is very important. It’s about being honest, real, and transpearant … no masks, no hiding, no pretending.
This is not easy – after all we’re into “image projection” and “impression management.” We have a strong tendency to hide and to want to look better than we really are. But what good does that do?
The level of intimacy or closeness in any relationship is directly related to the level of openness in that relationship.
Be open, honest and real. Share how you are really doing … with a safe person, a trusted friend.
Authenticity … think about it.